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Stephanie Vacca

stephanie vacca

May 24, 1988 ~ September 6, 2023

Born in: San Diego, California
Resided in: San Antonio, Texas

In Loving Memory of Stephanie Diane Vacca

May 24, 1988 – September 6, 2023


It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of Stephanie Diane Vacca aka “Duchess”, who departed from this world far too soon on September 6, 2023. She was born on May 24, 1988 in Escondido, CA to her loving parents Kathy Dutton and Lance Bernstine.

Stephanie’s magnetic personality drew friends from every corner of the world. She had an uncanny ability to make everyone feel welcome and valued, and she forged deep connections wherever she went. Her circle of friends was vast and diverse, a testament to her ability to make deep connections. She cherished these bonds and was always there to support, celebrate, and uplift her friends.

Family was important to Stephanie, no matter where life took her, she understood the importance of connection. From a young age she embraced relationships with her cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents. She followed in her family’s footsteps and found a love for cars, participating in car shows with her Nova or getting her hands dirty working on restoring her late husband’s Evo. Her look on life was infectious, ever encouraging and always looking out for those she loved.

Her adventurous spirit knew no bounds. Whether it was weekends off-roading in the desert, attending car shows and races, enjoying a bit of “wind therapy” on a ride with her partner Billy or embarking on spontaneous road trips with friends or family, adventure always found her. Her favorite times were making memories with all those she loved.

Stephanie is preceded in death by her husband Charles Vacca, brother Ross Bernstine, and her grandfather Terry Dutton. Left to cherish her memory are her mother, Kathy De La Rosa, father, Lance Bernstine, step-father Richard De La Rosa, grandmother, Dian Dutton, best-friend of over twenty years, Samantha Daggett, her partner, Billy Kehle, many aunts, uncles, cousins and all the friends she added to her family.

Though she has left this world, Stephanie’s’ light will continue to shine brightly through the memories we hold dear. May we honor her memory by embracing life with the same enthusiasm, love, and compassion that she shared with us.

Rest in peace, Stephanie, you will forever be missed. Your life and legacy will not soon be forgotten

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Memories Timeline


  1. CandleImageI remember when we used to hang out all the time! I remember when we used to take road trips and I remember when Rose and I took a road trip to Lake Havasu to see you and your mom after Charlie passed. And now here we are at your passing. You are truly going to be missed. I am sorry that We let life gets so busy that I haven’t seen you in a few years. I hope that you are looking over all of us and I hope that you are having an amazing wonderful time with Charlie! You will be missed!

  2. CandleImageStephanie was such a bright light who shared light with others since she knew what darkness felt like! She loved like no other & you always knew she’d be there if you needed her! She will be greatly missed but I know she’s shining her light down at us

    • CandleImageI literally just called to you:( I’m in shock! I will savor all our memories and I’m so glad I met you! I have pictures of us at Chuck E. Cheese when you and tanner and I took Larissa to get her ears pierced. We had so much fun and I was blessed to know you and have you in my life! You had the best mom and we are so lucky she gave us you! Much love to you and the family I’m so sorry! If there is anything the family needs please ask! Shine bright and now you fly high with your mom and Charlie! Xoxo

  3. CandleImageHi Stephanie,

    It’s been a long while since I have kept touch. You’ll always stay in my thoughts chica! Sending love and condolences to Kathy, Richard, and the rest of the family.

  4. CandleImageMay you have a safe journey to loved ones already passed on before you. May the ones still here hold your memories close to there hearts as they continue there journeys threw life. May you never be forgotten as I know you won’t. May peace and strength be brotten to thoughs who morn you with the heaviest hearts with out you. Rest in peace steph

  5. CandleImageStephanie you were one of a kind and such an amazing friend to so many , I always wanted to thank you for giving me a family and welcoming me into your home at such a young age when I had no where to go for introducing me to the father of my children your cousins but you’d tell people your nephews lol I love you so much you taught me so much and loved me even through my worst!! You were such a force of beauty I love you so much , you will always be missed and that light will never be forgotten I miss you so much thank you for creating some of the best memories with me in life !! Fly high beautiful!!

  6. CandleImageYou are missed beautiful girl. Stephanie was my student. We had many wonderful conversations. She was very dedicated to her education and very determined to finish. I was beyond sad to hear this news. To her family, my sincerest condolences for you at this time. You have my deepest sympathy and unwavering support. Wishing you peace, comfort, courage, and lots of love at this time of sorrow. My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. Ms. Anthony (Ms. A)

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